fake friends suck

My best friend lives in Ohio. Which is far. I hadn't seen her in months and she finally got to come visit me on Thursday! I was so happy to see her. We can go months without seeing each other, but when we're together it's like nothing has changed, and I love it.

I've been thinking a lot about the friendships I have. I'm going to be moving away this year, and I'm not going to be seeing a lot of my friends every day like I do now. It makes me wonder who I'm actually going to stay friends with, and who I'll lose touch with. It sounds bad, but I'm not good at keeping in touch with people when I'm not around them. I know that I have some really good friends that will always be there for me, but when I think about it, there are some people I just don't care to have in my life.

I think about what makes someone a "friend." There are some people I consider friends, but I probably shouldn't. I have some friends that abuse our friendship. I have friends that act like they're my friend, but when it comes down to it, they aren't there for me. Some of those people are people that I thought I was really close with, but they've proved me wrong. I'm really good at giving second chances. And third chances. And fourth. But at what point do I just stop trying? And how do you tell someone you're done?

I complain to DJ about it a lot, and he always tells me that they aren't worth my time. That I shouldn't let it bother me. That at this point, I should expect it from these people. He's right. I don't need people in my life that are only going to cause me stress. I'm tired of having fake friends. I'm tired of people being my friend only when they need something. I'm tired of getting my hopes up thinking, "Okay, this time she'll change," and being disappointed. If someone can't take that time to text me back ever, or come see me when we live five minutes away, why should I be there when they need me?

What is a real friend? To me, a real friend is there for you as much as you're there for them. A real friend makes you laugh, makes your day better- not stresses you out or makes you sad. Sure, people aren't perfect. I'm sure I'm not always a great friend. But a real friend tries.

I'm so thankful for the friends I do have. The friends that are there for me and will be there for me even when I'm not living here for a while. I'm thankful for my amazing boyfriend who's also my best friend. I'm thankful for new friends like C Town and K Camp (who really need to get their asses to Tucson!).

what do you think makes a real friend?
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the boy behind my blog!

Happy Thursday! I can't believe this week is almost over already....crazy! It's already half way through April which blows my mind. Where is the time going? Anyway, its that time of the month again...my favorite time of the month...where DJ gets to take over the blog! I'm linking up with Stephanie and Mallory for The Boys Behind the Blog link up!
Mal Smiles

1. Your girlfriends blog- a blessing or a curse?
Well its not a curse, so I'll say its a blessing.

2. Do you read Brianna's blog?
I don't read every post, but I read most of them :)
hehe I didn't think he read any of them!

3. What's one thing you do better than anyone you know?
Drive! I'm just really particular about how I like to drive so when people don't do it very well I get frustrated.
Which is why he always drives when we're together... :)

4. What's your favorite TV sitcom from the 90's?
The Fresh Prince! No doubt.

5. If you could open a business/shop what would it be + what goods/services would you sell?
I would want to do something with my hands. Maybe do construction or something with cars!

Well there you have it! Thanks Handsome! Did your man link up this month?
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social media pet peeves

I'm addicted to social media. But aren't we all? Bloggers without social media is like macaroni without cheese. Which is just pasta. Which I guess is still good so that was a bad example. How about a blogger without social media is like a fish without water? That's dramatic. But I think you get the point. So where were we? I'm always on social media. I have a routine. I check Facebook which usually has nothing new because I just checked it like five minutes ago. Then I check Twitter which usually has some funny tweets from Whale Facts or Antijoke apple because they're my favorite. By the way I'm so happy because DJ is following Pizza on Twitter and I think thats so funny. Anyway, then I check the Insta which usually leads to me stalking myself and wishing I was back in Germany. Woof. That was a lot. But where am I going with this? I forgot and had to take a break because I literally couldn't remember what this post was supposed to be about. Tuesdays are not my days. Anyway, being on social media all the time, there are those people that really bug you. You know who I'm talking about.

The constant selfie instagrammer.
A few selfies are fine. We all have those days where our hair is on point or we just want everyone to know how good we look, right? But three selfies a day? NO. We know what you look like. We've seen your duck face. We know that the caption "I look so ugly today" is a cry for attention. Oh, your boobs just happen to look HUGE in that picture and you didn't realize it? Yeah, okay. Multiple Instagrams a day are annoying, but if its multiple selfies- get out.

The giveaway tweeter.
Okay who doesn't love free stuff? I sure do. I even entered my first Instagram giveaway yesterday which I NEVER do because I don't like posting those kinds of things on the Insta...but free Starbucks? Count me in. Tweets are always worth more points in giveaways, I get it. But if you tweet ten giveaway links in a row, buh-bye *hairflip emoji* I don't want your spam crap on my news feed. Or whatever its called on Twitter. Tweed (twitter+feed) see? I'm funny.

The pity poster.
These are the ones that are clearly posts for attention. You know, the dramatic "everyone hates me, my life sucks" posts. Then when someone asks whats wrong they suddenly don't want to talk about it because they're too busy being a drama queen. "Everything is falling apart. I can't do anything right." Translation: Feel sorry for me and tell me how amazing I am. Or that song lyric thats super dramatic and clearly they posted it for a reason, but when no one comments on it and asks whats wrong they post another "life sucks" status because that'll surely make someone comment. They're the ones who post the "I'm ugly" pictures just so people will tell them they're pretty...attention seeking whores.

The over-sharer.
I understand that you're excited that you just had a baby. I'm happy for you. But I don't want to know how much you're bleeding still or how well your child is latching or how much your vag hurts (I have too many of these on Facebook...this is not a drill.) I'm sorry you have a kidney infection, but please don't post pictures of your urine on Facebook. (Also a true story.) I'm all for a tweet about pooping and other funny things, but some people share way too much and its gross and I can't handle it.

The boyfriend basher.
I can never understand this one. Not every relationship is perfect, obviously. But who would bash their husband/boyfriend on Facebook? If you have issues, deal with it. When you post about how guys suck we obviously know you're talking about the guy you're with. Like how embarrassing would it be to go on Facebook and see that your boyfriend/girlfriend posted a status about how you better start treating him(her) right?! Not okay. It's embarrassing and rude and you're obviously immature if you think a tweet is going to solve your relationship problems. Oh, and we can see what you "Like" on Facebook so every time you like a picture with a cheesy quote about how you deserve better, we see it.

The hashtag whore.
#too #many #hashtags #are #annoying #and #we #dont #care #if #youre #wearing #nomakeup #and #theres #nofilter

What're your social media pet peeves?

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things I can't live without + a cute picture of DJ holding an umbrella

This post is going to make me sound so materialistic and probably really ridiculous, but yolo its Tuesday. Which literally doesn't mean anything but I do what I want. But really there are just some things you can't live without, right?

I can't live without my phone. Sorry not sorry, I'm addicted. If I didn't have my phone I wouldn't be able to text DJ and then I would be sad. If I didn't have my phone I wouldn't be able to check Twitter and find out that US Airways is tweeting nudies. If I didn't have my phone I'll miss all of the important phone calls I get (you know, because I get so many). If I didn't have my phone I wouldn't be able to text in group chat with Kailey and Carissa and that would make me sad because they're the shit.

Starbucks. Like honestly I tried to give it up because I spend too much money on it. But I think I only lasted like...a week. I don't know what it is about Starbucks, but I really love their coffee more than anyone else's. It tastes better. Starbucks is the way to my heart so if you want me to love you just get me an iced soy chai. PS this picture was in Germany at the end of the trip when we finally got to go somewhere that had a Starbs. I was dying without it.

I can't live without countdowns. I love countdowns. They make the time go by so much faster and when I'm away from DJ we love having countdowns until our next reunion. Its so fun seeing it turn to "29" (like it did today) when it feels like just yesterday it was at 60.

I can't live without music. I'm always listening to it. I can't drive in the car without it, I listen to it in the shower, and while I'm walking to class. After a long day, loud music is the best stress relief. I love finding new songs I love, and I usually listen to the same song over and over again until I'm sick of it though.

I can't live without my boyfriend. Sorry but we all knew that was coming, right? Like I literally don't think I could live without him. Even when he's at work and I can't talk to him all day, I'm sad. When we're apart, life is so not as fun. He makes me happy when I'm down, he calms me when I'm stressed, and when I'm freaking out or going crazy hearing him tell me everything will be okay makes me feel so much better. He's my rock and I cannot wait to be with him forever! He makes everything so much more exciting. He's perfect for me and I'm so beyond happy I never have to live without him!

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it's like I have friends or something

Well guys, I did it. I was social (woo hoo!). This weekend I drove home to Phoenix to visit my mom. So while I was there, I met up with some lovely ladies that I "met" here in blogland! We've had this planned for a couple of weeks, and I've really been looking forward to it! After my first blate was a success, I knew that this one would be just as fun. I met up with Mo, Carissa, Kailey, and Kayli this time, and let me tell you, these ladies are awesome! It was so fun to get together and talk about blogging, work, school, and of course we shared our love stories. :)
(why is my mouth open..)

Since this was my second blate, I was a lot less nervous. On the first one, I was so worried about what to wear and what to talk about and all of that "first date" nervousness that is blating. But this time, I was definitely more excited than nervous. Except I'm awkward so I thought everyone was going to hate me or something but I think it turned out alright. Also, I hate walking into restaurants and looking for people- it gives me anxiety. So when I walked up to the hostess and told her I was meeting some girls and she said "Okay, go look around!" I wanted to cry. But then I saw Kayli sitting all cute on the couch and I totally recognized her and then I felt better because I didn't look like a complete idiot. Ugh, I'm crazy, I know.

We met at a super cute restaurant in central Phoenix called The Yard. I've been there before and knew it would be perfect for the blate because it has such a fun atmosphere. BUT when I got there it was even better than I thought because they had a super cute lounge area with ping pong tables and couches and stuff, so it ended up being the perfect place for us to hang out!

After we sat around and chatted for a while, we had funny food. I got grilled cheese sliders (oops) and Carissa had a salad so we split them half and half. YUM. Seriously, if you're in Phoenix, go to The Yard. Once we ate and took pictures like good little bloggers, Kayli had to leave (boo) but Carissa, Kailey, Mo, and I went to the cutest little ice cream shop in all the land- Churn. The place is so cute, it has tons of novelties and the ice cream is homemade and delicious! So basically- with grilled cheese and ice cream, it was a bad day for my stomach. Yolo.

It was such a fun day and I'm so glad I made it down to meet them! Now they just have to get their butts to Tucson to visit! Like I said before, if you have the opportunity to meet local bloggers, you totally should. I've had nothing but great experiences meeting some awesome ladies, and I definitely recommend it! Also, if you're in AZ, let me know!

How was your weekend?
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it's the little things

Happy Thursday loves! Wow, this week went by fast! Time is surely flying by, which is good, because I seriously need to be in Montana already! It's been a busy week. I started my internship, which I'm really excited about, and I got all of my work done for the weekend! I'm headed to Phoenix today for the weekend! I'm meeting with some lovely Arizona bloggers for lunch tomorrow and I couldn't be more excited! Be on the lookout for another blate recap soon! :)

While I'm counting down the days until summer, I'm trying to remind myself to find happiness in unexpected places, to find beauty in everything, to enjoy the little things. So here are some little things that are making me happy right now!
I finally updated my spottily playlist. I always listen to the same songs over and over again, and I get tired of them so fast. So I made a new playlist with all of the songs from my favorite artists. If you'd like to follow along, you can do that here!
I mentioned that DJ sent me flowers on his birthday. I've had this little milk jar for a while and I've been desperate to find a use for it. So I picked a few flowers from the bouquet he sent me and put them in the jar with some twine, and I love it. Now I just want to buy a million jars and fill them all with flowers!
I did my first Wordpress design yesterday! It was for Haley over at The Business of Blonde. She's new to blogging, and I actually know her in real life, so it was so exciting to help her get her blog started! Go say hi and show her some love, she's the best! If you're interested in a design of your own, you can see my design site here!
Chipotle. Enough said. I'm eating leftovers from last night as I write this and it honestly makes everything more enjoyable. Also, I'm sad because there's not one Chipotle IN THE ENTIRE STATE OF MONTANA. So I don't know what I'm going to do this summer.
Its almost summer. Have I mentioned that I'm excited about that? It really needs to hurry up, so I made this cute little countdown yesterday. I have 8 classes left, and 34 days until I get to see my boyfriend! Which is not too bad at all. :)
I'm also really getting excited about spring nail polish. You probably know that I'm obsessed with nail polish (I have 90+ bottles) and its finally time to whip out the spring colors! I'll admit, I miss the dark colors (I love my OPI dark purple + black) but I'm really obsessed with this OPI "Toucan Do It If You Try" and "Bare Bones" from Revlon right now! 
And what makes me happiest of all…sweet texts from my sweet man. Being apart is so hard, but he sure knows how to make me happy and feel loved every single day!

What're the little things that make you happy?

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cheap + fun date ideas you have to try!

As you all know, I'm headed to Montana this summer to spend three months with my man! I'm beyond excited and its only 30-something days away! Three months is the longest we've spent together at one time, even though with work he'll be gone for half of it. But being together all the time means we're going to do lots of fun things. Last summer, we were in Germany where there were so many fun things to do but in Montana- not so much. So, we have to be a little more creative with our dates. Plus, going out on dates can be expensive, so I've been brainstorming some things that are either free or really cheap that we (and you!) can do for fun with your loved one!
Go for a hike
I'm especially excited for this one. Montana has a lot of good hiking spots, and it's going to be beautiful this summer!

Watch the sunset
How romantic! Blankets in the back of the truck, some wine, country music, and the sunset!

Watch the sunrise
"You ever watched the sun go down from the bed of a pickup truck? Ever been so into somebody you're still lying there when it comes back up?" Exactly.

Order in and watch movies
Pizza (or if you're stomach hates you like mine does- Chinese) and some Netflix. It doesn't get much better than that! Plus, movies = cuddling.

See a matinee showing of a movie
This is great if you want a daytime date that's cheap but still just as fun. Most movie theaters have early showings for a discounted price. Some cities even have dollar theaters that play older movies!

Craft/build something
Do something Pinterest inspired! The DIY section has tons of good ideas for that stuff.

Cook dinner together
Make something nice and don't do all the work- make him help! Cooking together can be so fun. Set up a table with candles, some wine, and good music and it'll be even better than going out to eat!

Bake cookies
Baking together can be so fun- maybe even start a flour fight ;)

Work out together
Not everyone is into this, but going to the gym together is a good way to stay healthy but still spend time together.

Go for a walk
Unless you live in sketchy Tucson like me. But going on a walk on a nice day can be so relaxing and gives you a chance to focus on each other and talk.

Walk around downtown
If your town has a little downtown area, grab dinner or coffee and walk around! Visit some boutiques and just enjoy each other's company.

Go (window) shopping
If you're trying to save money, but the mall is the only thing to do where you're from (like in Montana ugh) then go window shopping! It never hurts to look around! Walking the mall hand in hand can be more fun than you think!

Giving back to the community is always rewarding, and it can be so fun if you find a cool opportunity and share it with the one you love!

Visit a farmer's market
If you're going to make dinner together, try getting the ingredients from a local farmer's market! If you're not planning on cooking, its still a fun place to walk around. Free samples anyone?!

Build a blanket fort
A blanket fort that includes a TV, wine, and some dessert can make for a cozy + romantic evening!

Have a movie marathon
Is anyone else a Netflix binger? Have a marathon of your favorite movies or TV series.

Surprise each other
Surprises are always fun. Make him a surprise dinner, or plan a surprise date! The element of surprise always makes things more exciting.

Play board games
Or video games. Anything where you can have fun and compete! Loser buys froyo!

Have friends over for dinner
You decorate, he mans the grill. Having friends over for a BBQ is always fun.

Have a picnic
Make some lunch or pick it up, pack some blankets and a frisbee, and head to the park!

Get coffee together
Coffee is just a cheaper alternative to getting lunch, and you can walk around while you drink it!

Try out a local restaurant
Exploring your city and finding new places to eat is the best! Who knows, you might find your new favorite lunch spot!

Just drive. Go somewhere random. Blast some music, hold hands, and don't stop driving until you find somewhere fun to stop!

Explore a new city
I'm excited to do this this summer. We're planning to go to one of the bigger cities and explore. Shop, find good restaurants, visit the zoo! A new city means new adventures!

What're your favorite date ideas?
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