I've been thinking a lot about the friendships I have. I'm going to be moving away this year, and I'm not going to be seeing a lot of my friends every day like I do now. It makes me wonder who I'm actually going to stay friends with, and who I'll lose touch with. It sounds bad, but I'm not good at keeping in touch with people when I'm not around them. I know that I have some really good friends that will always be there for me, but when I think about it, there are some people I just don't care to have in my life.
I think about what makes someone a "friend." There are some people I consider friends, but I probably shouldn't. I have some friends that abuse our friendship. I have friends that act like they're my friend, but when it comes down to it, they aren't there for me. Some of those people are people that I thought I was really close with, but they've proved me wrong. I'm really good at giving second chances. And third chances. And fourth. But at what point do I just stop trying? And how do you tell someone you're done?
I complain to DJ about it a lot, and he always tells me that they aren't worth my time. That I shouldn't let it bother me. That at this point, I should expect it from these people. He's right. I don't need people in my life that are only going to cause me stress. I'm tired of having fake friends. I'm tired of people being my friend only when they need something. I'm tired of getting my hopes up thinking, "Okay, this time she'll change," and being disappointed. If someone can't take that time to text me back ever, or come see me when we live five minutes away, why should I be there when they need me?
What is a real friend? To me, a real friend is there for you as much as you're there for them. A real friend makes you laugh, makes your day better- not stresses you out or makes you sad. Sure, people aren't perfect. I'm sure I'm not always a great friend. But a real friend tries.
I'm so thankful for the friends I do have. The friends that are there for me and will be there for me even when I'm not living here for a while. I'm thankful for my amazing boyfriend who's also my best friend. I'm thankful for new friends like C Town and K Camp (who really need to get their asses to Tucson!).
what do you think makes a real friend?